The day Jayden was born, William kept saying "I am a BIIIIIIGGGGGG Brudder!"
I know that William loves his little brother, but in the beginning it was a little rough. He seemed really happy with him in the hospital and just wanted to hold him. I was told a story when I got out of the hospital about when he met his brother for the first time. Unfortunately I was so out of it from the drugs they had given me for my C-section that I don't remember it happening. I am glad though that it was shared with me. Eric's mom brought the 3 kids up to see me and Jayden after they got out of school the day Jayden was born. William was sitting on the bed looking at Jayden and he said "Mommy he has teeny tiny little nose. He has teeny tiny little ears. He has teeny tiny little chin. Mommy I likes him!" It was SO cute!
After we brought Jayden home things started to change a little bit. The first day home everyone was just so happy to all be together that nothing really happened. The next day however, William was doing everything that he could that got him in trouble from the time that he got up to the time he went to bed. He could see that Jayden was taking up a lot of our attention and he wasn't too happy with it, so he was misbehaving so that he would get some of the attention. I remember something happened and he got in trouble and I told him he was going to have to go to his room for it. As he got up and walked to his room he looked at me with the most hurt eyes and just started crying. Well of course I started crying too because...well... I was 4 days postpartum and emotional anyway... and also because I couldn't figure out why my sweet little child was turning into this little monster.
Grandma took him home with her the next day and he stayed with her for a week. I cried all day that day because even though I knew it was good for him to go with her and get some one on one time (and it would be good for us to just use the time to concentrate on Jayden as the older kids were in school) it was so hard to let him go. He of course had a wonderful time with Grandma and we were told he never even asked about us except for one time. When he came back it was a readjustment period again. Luckily Eric was off work for 2 wks after we came home from the hospital so he could help with all the adjustments going on. One thing that happened was that we had been working with William on potty training and he used the bathroom with almost no accidents the whole week at Grandma's but when he got back home he wanted no part of that. He wanted to wear a diaper and be changed just like Jayden. He was really reacting to being bumped off his pedestal and not being the baby anymore. I worried for those first few weeks how this was all going to go and how long it was going to go on. One day I went in for my 3 week check-up and it was Eric's first day back at work and both of the older 2 kids were in school. I had William and Jayden at the doctor by myself. As we were sitting in the room waiting for the doctor to come in William looks at me and says, "Mommy, I want the doctor to put Jayden back in your tummy." I was quite surprised and asked him, "why was that?" He said, "because I no likes him!" It made me feel kind of sad but at the same time I recognized that he was trying in the best way that a 3 yr old could to express how he was feeling about his life being disrupted by this new little person. I really couldn't blame him. That night he was laying on the bed next to Jayden and he said, "Daddy me likes Jayden. He's my favorite." So, I guess that he was feeling better about him.
As I am writing this Jayden is 3 months old and William is doing A LOT better with Jayden. He is starting to see that his little brother is fun to have around. He always wants to hold him and kiss him - which he does about 10 times a day!
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